Is Daddy Just A State of Mind?

And Why We're Obsessed with Them

Picture this: You're out to dinner at a gorgeous restaurant. Your date picks up the hefty bill. Then takes you back to his penthouse apartment. As he starts to undress you, you remember your manners, look up, and say:

"Thank you, Daddy."

The fascination with daddies and daddy culture has been a staple of gay culture and community for millennia (even though the term itself came later). But recently, this dynamic has exploded out of the gay world and across all areas of pop culture. From Murray Bartlett to Pedro Pascal, you can't look anywhere without seeing evidence of our current obsession with daddies.

So, I wanted to know what really makes someone a daddy? Is it age, power, care, sex? Maybe even all of the above?

The answers left me even more intrigued than when I started because it turns out there's so much that goes into daddyhood. From care and education to sexual dynamics and a fair amount of kink, the results are fascinating.

And the number one thing daddies want to give us? It's not what you think.

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Now let's dive in.