Why I Love Bad Sex

Hidden lessons from the bedroom...

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What if I told you that bad sex—the awkward, clunky, "‘not my best work’ sex— was actually the best thing that could happen to your love life?

We treat bad sex like this, terrifying boogeyman, something to run from. But what if we instead saw it as a teacher, something to learn from that could actually make our sex lives better? In all other fields, we’re taught to face our problems to overcome them, so why can’t we apply that to sex?

Here’s the thing, I have learned so much more from bad sex than I have good sex. I’ve learned what I like and don’t. I’ve learned how to actually speak up for myself. I’ve learned how to have hard conversations after, when I feel like a moment has reached its natural conclusion. And all of those skills help me as I move forward and try to unlearn all the sexual baggage that comes with being a human.

In this piece, I’ll unpack the stigma behind bad sex, the stories we’re told that make us hide our bad experiences, and ways in which you can make these bad experiences better, reframing your beliefs about sex, and leading you towards more enjoyable sex along the way.

If this sounds interesting to you and you want to put some of your bad sex baggage behind you, then click that subscribe button below or start your free trial (you can always cancel later, no hard feelings). For those current subscribers, I am so grateful to you for your support, you make all this worth it! Let’s dive in!